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Simple Acts of Gratitude Can Make You Healthier

Joseph Dabon — Wed, 02 Jan 2019 12:05:03 +0000

“Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude of what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.” – Zig Ziglar

If you doubt Zig’s wisdom, then you must be living a wretched and ungrateful life. How else could it be if you have forgotten how nice it feels to you say a sincere “Thank you,” for a good deed done on you Or when complimented for having done something worthwhile for others?

It felt good, didn’t it The feeling made your brain release millions of “feel good” hormones and made your heart sing with joy; it increased your self-worth and self-confidence.

That’s gratitude – give or take, you win. It’s like a toss of the coin with you winning whatever face comes up.

For centuries, gratitude has been considered necessary for individual and social well-being. Of late, various scientific research proved them right – gratitude is good for the health.

Research shows that grateful people are happier, healthier, and more motivated to exercise.

Gratitude makes you feel good, no doubt. But what is it?

What is Gratitude

Gratitude is an emotion which, according to Robert Emmons, a leading scientific expert on the subject, has two key components:

First: an affirmation of goodness; there are good things in this world, and we receive gifts and benefits.

Second: the sources of this goodness are outside of ourselves. We acknowledge that other people – or a higher power – gives us many benefits, big and small, to help us achieve the goodness in our lives.

Consistent gratefulness increases happiness and life satisfaction. It makes you optimistic, joyful, enthusiastic, and fills you with other positive emotions. And it reduces anxiety and depression.

Real gratitude is not a matter of quantity but quality. It is not based on wealth, good looks, or the best of health, but the appreciation of the little things you have which might have escaped your attention.

It is to be thankful for what you have and what you are.

For most, practicing real gratitude is not easy, or even natural. This is due to our primal instinct of reacting faster to threats or bad news. Our brains are more efficient in storing negative impulses.

For example, researchers have found out that in a day of 100 experiences where 99 of them are positive or neutral, our brain remembers more the one negative experience.

So how can exercise gratitude in the face of this chaotic and often ungrateful world?

Learning Gratitude

If gratefulness is not one of your core values, it’s high time to make it into one while you still can. It is not that difficult, really. Just as a habit is formed through constant repetition of an action, gratitude can be learned by doing the following consistently:

1. Say a prayer of thanks upon waking up each morning

Figures from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) show that in 2007, about 1,066 Americans aged 65 to 74 die each day.

If you can pray, then you are not a part of this gruesome statistic. And that is something you should be very grateful for. The life of an elderly is like a toss of the dice – you never know what side comes up. So celebrate each new day.

2. Start your day with a cheerful heart

Go about your daily chores with a cheerful heart. It makes doing them easy and pleasurable – not a toil.

Be grateful that you are still strong and sane enough to do them. A lot are confined in hospitals or suffering from the desolation of a nursing home.

3. Filter your thoughts

Some experts estimate that your mind processes 2,100 thoughts per hour. And not all are positive thoughts. A lot of them does not reinforce your sense of gratitude.

Purge them out. There is no sense in going about your day burdened with energy-sapping or stressful thoughts.

Yes, it is not easy to be grateful if you are suffering from painful age-related illnesses. But they don’t go away be dwelling on them. They get worse. In fact, staying positive is your best antidote against pain.

A study done by Tetsuo Koyama, MD, PhD., at Wake Forest University Baptist Medical Center, shows that positive thoughts decrease pain ratings by 28% – equivalent to a shot of morphine.

4. Practice sharing

A grateful heart is a happy heart. And happiness, to be complete must be shared.

Evan Spiegel said, “There’s real value in sharing moments that don’t live forever.”

But they do. For example, a heartfelt greeting of a neighbor or the mailman can produce a lasting impression. Or complementing the courteousness of your neighborhood grocery cashier, or the lovely garden of a neighbor can make them think highly of you.

5. Record your progress

Write down your day’s activities so you can see the areas where you expressed gratitude and you didn’t. The purpose is to troubleshoot those areas where gratitude was difficult or impossible to show.

Developing a habit cannot happen overnight. It takes a conscious, and sometimes difficult effort, the habit you need to develop. You will backslide many times. Hence, the need for a record to track your progress.

6. Say a prayer of thanks when you sleep at night

Meister Eckhart said, “If the only prayer in your entire life is to say Thank You, it will be enough.”

Not only must you express gratitude for having lived through the day, but prayers evoke positive emotions and promote better sleep. And studies show that people who pray each day tend to live longer than those who do not.

Practicing gratitude goes deeper than creating an aura of joyful and enriching experience both ways – the giver and the recipient. It also promotes better mental health.

Mental Health Benefits of Gratitude

Of late, the psychology world has trained its sight on the relation of happiness and emotional well-being.

Of particular interest in their curiosity is gratitude and how to harness and cultivate it to promote better physical and mental health.

Their studies, so far, have proven that gratitude can…

1. Improve self-esteem

Our digitally-connected world feeds us with things that can make us feel too fat or too skinny, or ugly. It sells us expensive shoes, bags, vacation destinations, upscale restaurants, and hotels.

While these are legitimate marketing ploys, they can make us feel inadequate if these are out of our reach. They fill us with self-doubt and inaccurate belief that we are not good enough as the guys next door

Practicing gratitude can remove that. By appreciating what you are and what you have, big or small, can increase your self-esteem; it makes you live a fuller and more contented life.

2. Promote better sleep

Going to bed free of any negative thoughts that eat your soul can make you sleep better.

Several studies show that people who practice gratitude sleep faster and have better.

3. Boost physical health

Robert Emmons did a study in 2003 to determine the effects of gratitude on people’s health.

The study shows that people who regularly practice gratitude are more likely to meet their exercise goals. They also engage in weekly cardiovascular activities.

It also shows that gratitude improves eating habits, and can cut down on unhealthy ones like smoking and alcohol abuse.

And an article in Psychology Today shows that people who practice gratitude have fewer aches and pains. They also visit their doctors for routine checkups.

4. Strengthen relationships

Practicing gratitude is the welcoming other people into your world and you, into theirs.

It engenders sharing and receiving, not only of physical things but of goodwill; of empathy. It removes the veil of uncertainty that commonly exists between people. Gratitude is like saying, “This is who I am and I am grateful for your friendship.”

It’s not always easy to practice gratitude because people have their own biases, proclivities, and worldviews. But it is worth the effort to give it your best. It is a key ingredient in living a healthier and happier life.

Image:http://www.allaboutseniors.org/a-grateful-survior

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The Filipino Houses of Acuzar – a “Must See!”

Joseph Dabon — Mon, 11 Dec 2017 12:05:58 +0000

Maranaw Houses – simple, elegant and extinct.

Nothing is over until it’s over- no matter how old you can be.

I found this out over the weekend in a place I thought I may never have the chance to see, feel and experience in my lifetime – the Las Casas Filipinas de Acuzar (The Filipino Houses of Acuzar), a heritage resort in Bagac, Bataan, Philippines, 150 kms west of Metro Manila.

Through Google, I had a fairly good idea what to expect. But it was too far below from what I saw when we got there.

The Las Casas Filipinas de Acuzar is not just like any resort. It is a resort with a difference – it takes you back to between mid-Spanish colonial times and early American occupation.

In a touch of insanely creative genius (and lots of cash), the owner, Mr. José “Gerry” Acuzar, an architect, built replicas or bought Filipinos houses of the era, dismantled them “in situ,” and rebuilt them, piece by piece, into his 40-ha lot in the province.

The result is like a storybook that is seen and felt, not read.

Mr. Acuzar’s eye for perfection left nothing to chance – from the cobbled paths along each house, to the stone bridges that span the resort’s waterways, and the attire the staff wears – all are reminiscent of that important period of the country’s history.

And it has paid off. The Las Casas Filipinas de Acuzar is now one of the Philippines’ most visited travel destinations and a favorite wedding venue.

Las Casas Filipinas de Acuzar:

The food is great, but the interior is astounding (this is where we had lunch).

A tiny glimpse of the past (taken along the beach front) – how it must have looked in the mid 1800s, sans the passenger jeep.

Fantastic view from elegantly made stone bridges – taken from the back entrance of our hotel

Old but stately – El 82 – the hotel we stayed in. It belonged to the famous Ongpins of Manila.

Lola Basyang and children eager to hear her stories:

“Lola Basyang” is the pen name of Severino Reyes (February 11, 1861 – September 15, 1942), a Filipino writer and playwright and famous for his anthology of short stories that regaled children at the time.

Bridge of monsters:

Lola Basyang’s favorite evil characters, beautifully sculpted, attached beneath a breath-taking stone bridge (l to r: kapre (ogre), mananggal (vampire), and the tikbalang (centaur)).

Hotel del Oriente – regal and colorful, then and now

Hotel del Oriente was a first class hotel in Manila and the entire archipelago built by Don Manuel Perez Marqueti in 1889.

If you missed it then, don’t miss it now.

The one and only – its plate states that it was the only red brick house during the period.

Then and now, it is still a sight to behold.

Want a ride?

Tourists having a field day in a horse-drawn colorful carriage. At the back is Casa Hagonoy.

The other face of Las Casas Filipinas de Acuzar:

As unique as this resort is, it is also unique in its facility to provide beach-lovers an unparalleled space to romp, play games, or simply bond – barefoot – on the sand.

Its beachfront is as broad and deep and clean (probably cleaner) than that of Atlantic City’s.

The beach – as long and wide as your legs can take.

Or bond with friends in the midst of sea, sky sand – the elements of a happy and contented life,

Or enjoy the spectacle of carabao racing.

And when the sun starts it journey to the far side and make today a yesterday, it is the best place for contemplation and gratitude for having lived a day that will soon become a memory.

As a writer, I pride myself with having a deep vocabulary. Yet, Las Casas Filipinas de Acuzar, left me speechless. I can use all the superlatives in the English language, but deep in my gut is the nagging feeling that I have not described it well enough.

Note: All photos were taken from my new Huawei Nova 2i – courtesy of my daughter. LOL!

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